The first of the single mom stories of hope is Cassie Rajewich. After ten years of mastering her own mess of single motherhood, she ditched the security and comfort of the life she had built, upped and left her residence of Las Vegas and made the move to Southern California where she began a new adventure, blending a family.
Interview with Cassie Rajewich
Q: What age were you and your children when you became a single mom?
A: I was 25 my daughter was 18 months.
Q: What was/is the hardest part for you being a single parent?
A: Dealing with the abuse and emotional/financial neglect of her father.
Q: How did you overcome your biggest hurdles of being a newly single parent?
A: Brought in the troops. Friends, family, community programs, and most of all I brought my heart and tears to Jesus.
Q: What is the best thing about being a single parent?
A: I got to create peace and set the stage for a strong foundation. Before becoming a single mom my attention was attention was spent managing an abuser and seeking sanity.
Q: Who was/is your support system?
A: My family. My mom and dad, my sister and then her husband. The got me through a lot.
Q: What advice would you give to a brand new single mom?
A: Finances and emotions are probably on the list. Don’t neglect either. Lots of grace. Work with someone you trust that can help you create a plan.
Q: What is the most surprising thing you have learned about yourself as a result of being a single parent?
A: Probably that I was the problem and I was really truly in an abusive marriage, which I believed I was above. This is not true for many and it doesn’t take away the responsibility of the abuser, but I was not wanting to see the truth. I also was not answering a call God had placed on my life.
Q: Is there anything else you would like to share with newly single parents?
A: I guess it depends on how they became a single parent, but for the most part working towards the best emotionally healthy you is the best thing you can do. You are the heart of the home. Bring that to a good place, bring lots of grace and if you are faith-based, partner with the Holy Spirit. He knows you and your children better than anyone. He knows the deep places of hurt and he will be faithful to lead you through to the other side.
More About Cassie
Cassie Rajewich is a life strategist for single moms as well as a writer and speaker of the heart. She is the creator of Unconventional Motherhood: Helping Single Moms Master the Mess. You can find her over atcassierajewich.com or join her Facebook group, The Single Moms Mastery for a small group connection with other single moms.