Next in the single mom stories is Christina. Christina discusses the overwhelm of being a newly single mom to young children and how she overcame it.
Interview with Christina
Q: What age were you and your children when you became a single mom?
A: I was 32 and my kids were 3 years old and 15 months old.
Q: What was/is the hardest part for you being a single parent?
A: Being completely responsible for everything by myself 24/7. Sometimes I’m used to it, but sometimes the sheer responsibility of literally every single thing is REALLY overwhelming. Never having time for myself and feeling isolated at times is hard too.
Q: How did you overcome your biggest hurdles of being a newly single parent?
A: My biggest hurdle was probably the emotional toll it took on me. I pushed myself to get out of the house and be around other people to take my mind off of what was going on. I read a lot of inspiring stories/blogs from single moms. I listened to music that made me feel good. I read quotes that made me feel empowered. I wrote positive affirmations down. I did whatever I could to get myself out of that really bad emotional place I was in.
Q: What is the best thing about being a single parent?
A: I get to parent the way I want without having to make compromises with a significant other. I get all the love and amazing moments. My kids are pretty much obsessed with me and they know I’m always going to be there no matter what 🙂
Q: Who was/is your support system?
A: My mom and very close friends.
Q: What advice would you give to a brand new single mom?
A: Allow yourself to grieve. You need to mourn the loss of the life you thought you were going to have or mourn the loss of the family you thought your kids would have. But once you have done that, do whatever you can to uplift and empower yourself. Do things that make you feel good, (even if you fake it til you make it).
Q: What is the most surprising thing you have learned about yourself as a result of being a single parent?
A: How resourceful and strong I actually am. I fixed household things I didn’t think I could fix, (vacuum, plumbing, air conditioner, etc). I got to a place where I knew me and my kids would be just fine. As hard as being a single mom is, I wasn’t going to let it knock me down and I knew I would raise some awesome kids by myself.
Q: Is there anything else you would like to share with newly single parents?
A: Even if this isn’t how you thought your life would go, you CAN do this. You have everything your kids need to be an amazing mom. Just make sure to take care of yourself too.
More About Christina
You can find out more about Christina where she writes for single moms at Raising Biracial Babies.