Next up in the single mom stories of hope is Sarah. Sarah is a single mom of 6 girls. Read her inspiring interview below then make sure to check out where to find her online at the end of the interview.
Interview with Sarah
Q: What age were you and your children when you became a single mom?
A: 1st time: pregnancy (4 months), 2nd time: 3 months, 23 months, 3.5 yrs, 5 yrs, 9 yrs
Q: What was/is the hardest part for you being a single parent?
A: Logistics: Having to pick and choose who can do what because I’m only one person and I can’t be in two places at once.
Q: How did you overcome your biggest hurdles of being a newly single parent?
A: Focusing on the kids. No matter how hard, how overwhelmed I may get, when I focus on them, I find a way. There’s always a way.
Q: What is the best thing about being a single parent?
A: It’s just easier. I don’t have to argue with anyone about when bedtime is, who does what, what the rules are. I can buy myself ice cream, and I know I will get some of it. There are no expectations — since it’s all me, I get done what needs to get done, when I want to.
Q: Who was/is your support system?
A: To be honest, when I was newly single, I didn’t have anyone. Now I have friends I can count on. But that took 4 years to build.
Q: What advice would you give to a brand new single mom?
A: Focus on surviving first. You can fall apart/get angry/cry later. Shove the emotions aside and focus on getting your family stable – legally, financially, with routines and support. Then book yourself a weekly appointment with a therapist to deal with all the emotional fallout.
Q: What is the most surprising thing you have learned about yourself as a result of being a single parent?
A: That I actually am an organized person. I like clean, decluttered spaces. I never thought I cared before.
Q: Is there anything else you would like to share with newly single parents?
A: Focus on the kids. You can handle anything if you focus on what’s best for them.
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